My Christmas Gift

MacGyver surprised me with this Christmas gift the other year. It may seem like an odd thing to give but I was touched. I was really touched.

The gift is inspired by 'The Mayonnaise Jar and Coffee' story found below. I think we had received that forwarded message some time in the middle of that year. It was one of those forwarded messages that really hit the spot. I consider it a 'diamond in the rough', I guess MacGyver felt the same way.

It was sweet of MacGyver to get the glass container, gather up pebbles and sand, buy golf balls and have family members sign one ball each. And he bought flowers, too. He knows that I get sad when I see fresh flowers wilt. Besides, plastic flowers were more practical for this gift.

So this was not an off-the-rack Christmas gift. He really put a lot of thought into it. He put much heart in it. It was his way of reminding me to focus on the important things in life and to show me that I have much to be thankful for.

I keep this on my desk at the office.


Here is the story behind the gift...


The Mayonnaise Jar and Coffee

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things -- your family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions -- things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

"The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff."

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you." Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18 holes. There will always be time to clean the house, and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked," he said. "It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of coffee with a friend."